Have you ever had this dream when you sit on the edge of the mountain and everything changes except you? As the clouds move faster, the sun is on a rush as the moon takes its place and the seasons are speeding up as if summer will last one minute and next thing you know the autumn is here. You are just an observer, you can do nothing else than going along with the flow. Or at least this is what you think. Now add on the scenery humans. Fragile peace, upcoming wars, starvation, thirst, pain, natural disasters are the things you see on that fast forward mode. You close your eyes. You don’t want to see more. You don’t want to feel more.
“There is nothing I can do”, you think and an echo of children’s voices “You can help yourself”. You shake your head in disbelief. “Do I want it?”, you ask yourself. “Are you scared?”, the children ask. “I don’t know you, stop talking!”, you exclaim. “We don’t know you either but we care. Do you care?”, they say as their voices fade in the wind. You start crying so much. It makes your whole body hurting but you don’t stop. You feel a nudge on your shoulder. ” Wake up”, you hear that female voice saying to you.
You feel so confused in your dream but one minute later you open your eyes. It’s your mom trying to wake you up. “Mom, I’m awake”, you tell her and she looks at you surprised. “What happened to you?”, she asks with a caring voice. “Mom, I want to change the world”, you say with tears in your eyes. “Then start by helping me to bring some food to that family across.”, she smiles at you widely. Now you know what she means. Don’t wait for the right moment. Be the one who will make the moment the right one. Start changing the world by being the Change. You are the Change!
You dyed your hair to your favorite color and you go out with your best friend a couple hours later. When you ask her if she likes your hair, she gives you the look of fail. You are at work and a customer tells you that you should be fired for being so rude. After all you just want to stay home, sit on your bed and have your laptop ready for some online action. As you start networking, you get some very negative feedback. Are you doing something wrong? Why people are so judgmental? Is there anything you can do to make them stop? First of all keep in mind that it’s not your fault. As far as there is free will in this world, people will voice their opinions. You like it or not, you can’t avoid criticism but you can play it smart. If something affects you so bad, it means that it holds some truth. What does this mean? Let’s say that a random woman on a playground says how a bad mother you are cos you keep talking on the phone and paying no attention to your kid. Next thing you know, you are so mad at her that you start a fight.
Pretty much you acted like a wounded animal who just had its wound touched. This woman just said something that you feel it’s true. If it was completely false, you wouldn’t be annoyed at all. So instead of having this fight, ignore this woman, get your kid, go home and think. Think a lot. Are you really a bad mother? You are not but sometimes you feel like that cos you have no time for yourself. You can set your mindset in that way so you can solve the issue. Insecurities come out first as a defense mechanism when we are all being criticized. If you consider it as a bad thing, think that it was the only way to pay attention on the current issue. All this time you were avoiding it cos you felt bad. Time to work on criticism instead of shoving it away. Lessons in life are never easy but if they were, you wouldn’t pay that much attention!
Years come and go and you still try to define happiness in your life. All these little things that make you smile, all these moments that truly gave you a taste of happiness and this one guy who means the world to you. When you met him, you had a lot of fun, heartwarming conversations, walking next to the seashore and the most important; he made you smile, he gave your life a different meaning. Your face was shining and every time you talked with your friends, you kept telling them that he’s the one, you are so happy with him. One day he shows up and he asks you to break up with him. You pushed him a lot he said. You wanted the perfect man he said. He made you happy while he was not he said. You stay there frozen, so numb as he wished you all the best in your life. He closed the door as you kept staying there numb. He took the happiness with him.
The next months, you were depressed. How could he do that to you? You blame him but keep in mind that you hold responsibility too. How can you rely on someone for making you happy? This means that before you meet him, you never really felt what happiness is. It starts from within and if you keep searching it outside of yourself in the means of a thing or person then it won’t take long that it will turn into your drug. If a show on TV is the only thing that makes you happy, then it’s when you know that you made it your happiness drug. When the show stops, you will become depressed. What’s your inner spark? What really makes you happy? No one is perfect and happiness is far away from perfection. It’s a big journey and you are ready to enjoy it!