A couple years ago you met this gorgeous guy, you fell instantly in love with him as you started dating frequently. You asked advice from your friends and they told you to be careful on what you say, on what you do cos you don’t want him to get the wrong idea of you. Then you read a bunch of articles around net how the first dates should be. Then you bought this magazine since most girls consider it the best for love advice. The days go by and you have created a stable wall and some more barriers around you.
Now you do feel safe to be around him. A date after a date, a year after a year and a common decision to live with him in the same house. It’s the man you dreamed. It’s what you always wanted, to share the same apartment with a person who understand you completely, who treats you like a queen. The first months seem like a fairytale. The next ones start feeling like you try hard to climb on a mountain.
Now the secrets start taking place and create another wall between you and him. You don’t lie to him yet this distance is getting bigger. The fights lead nowhere lately and you don’t know why. That night you yell at him “You don’t know who I am!” and he replies “I thought I knew you. I don’t know who you are anymore.”. He slams the door and leaves you behind bursting into tears. What happened? Why he left you?
You should better ask yourself “Did he ever know me as person? Did I ever give him a chance?” and then remember how you wanted to be the perfect girlfriend for him. Remember now how you created your beautiful and stable wall. Remember how you never told him so many things about you cos you thought he would never like you. How can you be with someone if you cannot be yourself? How can you build a relationship based on a fake image you project?
Trust yourself, love yourself, start listening more carefully to that little voice inside you. Next time you go on a date, don’t ask for advice. Let your intuition lead you. If it was not the right choice, at least it was yours and only yours. Above all be real, the person who will be around you, he will accept you for who you are not for who you make him think that you are. Honesty is a strong base for a beautiful relationship. Just go for it!
You never expected that you would wish to turn back time, not only to fix things but to go back in the life you had as a kid or teenager. All these daily life problems make you wanting to go back, to forget everything and be carefree. Do you remember though what you kept telling your parents when you were younger? “I want to grow faster to leave this house, I want my freedom!” If you feel that not much has changed yet, that you think you started a new life while your past keeps making you wanting to go back, it’s when you know that it’s time to fix your past once and forever. Many people tell you to turn your back to what happened in the past. They will tell you that you need a fresh start without pain, without worries and no drama. If you just skip your past, then it will keep popping up in moments when you need to take serious decisions.
Let me give you a simple example. Let’s say that you want to get married to a guy you are together for two years and lately you feel that he’s cheating on you. Then you remember that your ex never cheated on you but you did have that sexual chemistry. You think that you overrated the current relationship, maybe it’s time to call your ex, date or something. Just having some fun even before you will fully commit to a guy, a guy you are not really sure if he’s the right one. Now you see what happened? You haven’t solved the issues with your ex boyfriend and yet you want to move forward to a marriage. Face your past, accept the pain, heal and move on. Fear will try to keep you back but you are stronger than that, yes?
How many times you had a fight with a bad girl? How many times you were one? Why boys do bad girls? So many questions to be answered and you today are not in mood for such a conversation, you see the world the other way around. No one will hurt you ever again, your boss has to respect you today, your mom has to to stop telling you to get married and your ex has to shut his big mouth cos you two are over. Does it make you a bad person though? No if you know what you want from your life, no if you want changes and the only thing to achieve them is to gain power over your root chakra. Life decisions can be hard but you know that your life will be better after this. Don’t be surprised if you want to go back to your natural dark hair color, start wearing more frequently red and black, smokey eyes have become your second skin and you say no most of the times. All these energies come from your root chakra, indicating that you are ready for the next step in your life.
The most important thing here is that you are ready to disconnect from people and situations. Fears coming from the fact that the root chakra has to do with the fear of disconnection and unknown, the fear of being alone in the end without support from anyone. The misconception on this theory is that when we ask for someone’s support we consider ourselves weak and in need. Asking help from someone should be made on an equal level; that the other person actually holds a knowledge about something we don’t but that doesn’t make us inferior. This leads to energetic cords towards friends, family or other people who offer support. Be ready to face your new reality, be strong and life will award you!
Your boyfriend calls you and cancels the date. You are mad at him. Your boss asks you to change something on a report. You are mad her. A random guy calls you by accident cos he dialed the wrong number. You are mad at him. Numerous everyday examples could be posted here but eventually you got the point. You are irritated most of the day, a small thing goes wrong and you explode. Have you noticed that not even your best friend is calling you lately? Have you paid attention on your cat’s behavior? She’s hiding all over the house. Do you feel like being nominated with the Negative Vortex Award? What’s wrong with you? Before you start storming off towards me too, back off a bit and go to your mirror.
Don’t refuse to see your frowning face, your shaking hands – you don’t have to wonder what it is anymore – and the bad habit you have lately to mess with your hair. You are about to cry but you won’t, you are strong enough to get through this. For the sake of your emotional state, stop, just stop. Take a big breath, make hot cocoa, lay on the couch and play some relaxing music. Now look within, what is really bothering you? This is the question you should ask yourself. Before you start blaming all the others, just focus on your inner world.
If you feel like writing a blog, meditate, do yoga or go outside to walk next to the sea, just do it. The more you ignore the problem, the worse it becomes. It’s like trying to cage a monster and since you fail, you decide not to pay attention to it. What happens after this? Pretty much the monster starts “eating” you, this anger starts taking over and it won’t take long before you will end up with a panic attack, depression or even health problems. When your body and soul keep warning you, make yourself a big favor to pay attention to the signs. Don’t let situations like that be the big obstacle for your happiness!