Is your Sadness lately your best friend? Just talk to her.

In the beginning you had hard time to admit it that you are sad most of the day. It started with a lot of stress and then that feeling that everything is going plain wrong in your life. You know many people around you being on the same page as you but you never thought that you would  never thought that you had to deal with this too. Your big question is “Now what?” along with all the negative mindset of this situation. Many times you cry so much at night till you can’t breathe.It feels bad but at the same time addictive.

When a friend calls you to tell you some good news about her life, you find a quick excuse to avoid her. You shake your head as with disgust you hang up. Happiness sounds so bad as an idea, right? Then you start crying, you feel the pain released again and you are stuck in this situation for days, sometimes for months. You come to a point that you need a solution and fast. Otherwise you feel that you will lose your mind.

Try an easy approach to start dealing with the issue. Meditate and visualize Sadness as a young person who looks like you. Face her, talk to her, ask her questions. Don’t question the conversation, just let it flow. When you are done, be proud of yourself. You just made a huge step to face yourself and your issue. Keep working on that meditation exercise till she fades away. It may take you days to fix it but don’t give up. Always keep notes after the conversation you had with that part of yourself. Now see how much progress you have done!

I believe there is a another world waiting for us – Cloud Atlas

“I believe there is a another world waiting for us, Sixsmith. A better world. And I’ll be waiting for you there” Robert Frobisher from Cloud Atlas. The world you see and the worlds you don’t. The fact that you can’t see them with your physical eyes, it doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. Each one of us holds a piece of truth, like a small window of the knowledge. Can you imagine what it would happen if one person held all the knowledge? There would be no communication between people since there would be nothing to be discussed. No knowledge would be shared and there would be no interest for life and no need for any experience.

Do you understand now why we are all connected? We are all small pieces of a big puzzle. Hold the hand of the person next to you and you are instantly connected. Maybe you can’t see the reason but you know that something is there. You “remember” this person, the attitude, the like or dislike towards their face. In that other world you were friends or the biggest enemies. When you came here on earth, you find this person again.

“We cross and re-cross our old paths like figure-skaters.”  Life lessons are not being learned in one lifetime, you have to come back and work on them again. When you have a “project” or “mission” to finish, you need to be present again and continue from where you had it left the previous time. No one forced you to be here. Neither a higher being or another external force. You came here by your own will. It would be easy to blame someone else for your own choices. Don’t expect a peaceful world when your soul mission is done.  A better world yes, a perfect world no. 

Work on that small piece of the puzzle you hold. Study it, understand it, figure everything out. You are not alone. You were never alone. Have faith on yourself and remember that knowledge is all you have. You can access it anytime you want. Or you can just quit. The power is in your hands. Are you ready to use it wisely?

Feather Inspiration #73

Very Important Person Gratitude (Or just more than one)

So after thinking a lot, you realized that you have a couple important people in your life who inspire, love you and believe in you. You may also find that one person who changed your life completely and you are so grateful. Positive strong energy is coming out from all these persons, you can’t feel otherwise than blessed in your life. I’m sure you have thought that all these people bring the best side out of you. Without them, you wouldn’t reach that far in life. Keep in mind that this is only one side of the coin. How about the other one?

Yes, I’m talking about the people who made you cry, who broke your heart, who made you think back then that life only brings pain. It’s just the past right? Yet again think how much influence these people had on you. The experience is the outcome of the pain and suffering. Therefore you are wiser. Therefore you can make better decisions now. You may think that you were a fool back then but look at you today. “I won’t make the same mistake again”, you say to people when they ask you for advice. When back then you thought that you are worthless, that you will only run after people for advice. Now look at you today.

You are the one who is giving advice to people with similar issues. It’s when you realize that maybe the most important person in your life was your worst enemy. How many times you closed your eyes and wished the worst for this person? Now how many times you are willing to thank them? Yes thank them as for forgiving them, it’s another story. It needs a lot of understanding and knowledge of the situation so as to forgive someone. If you just do it out of pity, then don’t even bother. Focus on the lesson you learned and move on!

 

All Grown Up – Responsibility and Reality

“I’m all grown up mom, you don’t need to tell me what to do”, you exclaimed when you were 10 years old. “I want to be a child again, when I had no problems back then”, you sobbed when you lost your job. Did you ever grow up in the end? Did you get yourself lost in the process? Many times people do rush since they things cos the idea of being present on another period of time seems amazing. It’s like wanting to be a parent only by thinking that kids are super cute. Growing up always brings responsibilities and this is what you didn’t keep in mind. Life is not easy but it can be easier if you are conscious of the changes. You can’t expect to be all grown up without facing the changes and the responsibilities. This right away points to your root chakra , to all your fears and how all these years you’ve been able to cope with.

Physical growth comes along with the years but spiritual and personality growth doesn’t follow this paradigm. You could be 80 years old but with attitude of a 10 year old kid or vice versa. Work on the reality you create on a daily basis and be present. Don’t try to rush life for any reason. The more you push forward, the more you pack issues and you try to run with them on your back. In the end you will break down, you will realize that you have to face more problems than you ever expected. Root chakra meditation would be beneficial to the point that you will be able to feel grounded and ready for the life’s challenges. Don’t be grown up cos someone told you so. Don’t be grown up cos you want to escape a situation. Be grown up cos you are mature enough to be responsible for your own self!

Rewind, Regret and Rough Reality

Have you ever felt that life will bring all the “bad” things in one day? When you go at work, you have a fight with a coworker and you feel guilty. You are driving back home as your cell phone rings; it’s your dad and he wants you to have dinner with the family on weekend. You just refuse by finding an excuse and again you feel guilty. Before you sleep, all these thoughts are in your head as you keep rolling all over. All these images, the conversations you had, the excuses, the guilt and the biggest question of all “What if I told them otherwise? Did I make the wrong decision?”. Write your thoughts down and actually see how many times you had to use excuses. Do you feel that you are doing the wrong thing or that you are around the wrong people? This pretty much would explain why you are not on the same level of frequencies and why you try to bridge the gap by using all these excuses. You feel bad cos you suppress your needs and if you don’t, you feel guilty again towards yourself.

Human relationships are hard but yet again above all it’s the self respect. If you made a specific decision, it means that at that time it was the best for you. There is no point to analyze the situation too much. You will definitely realize that from every aspect you will feel guilty. Now you may wonder if there is anything to do so as to fix it. How you will stop regretting about most of the things you do?  Be real. Be yourself. Get in touch with the knowledge within. If you feel that you made a bad decision, before you start blaming yourself or everyone else, ask yourself why you did. One sentence or one word will be enough to define it. Know your motives and make the necessary changes. Reach out to the people who want to be around you. You will feel who is the right one for you. If you feel yourself and that you don’t need to pretend or find excuses, then it’s when you know that the friend with similar mindset will give you her hand and walk with you!

Criticism and how bad you want to avoid it

You dyed your hair to your favorite color and you go out with your best friend a couple hours later. When you ask her if she likes your hair, she gives you the look of fail. You are at work and a customer tells you that you should be fired for being so rude. After all you just want to stay home, sit on your bed and have your laptop ready for some online action. As you start networking, you get some very negative feedback. Are you doing something wrong? Why people are so judgmental? Is there anything you can do to make them stop? First of all keep in mind that it’s not your fault. As far as there is free will in this world, people will voice their opinions. You like it or not, you can’t avoid criticism but you can play it smart. If something affects you so bad, it means that it holds some truth. What does this mean? Let’s say that a random woman on a playground says how a bad mother you are cos you keep talking on the phone and paying no attention to your kid. Next thing you know, you are so mad at her that you start a fight.

Pretty much you acted like a wounded animal who  just had its wound touched. This woman just said something that you feel it’s true. If it was completely false, you wouldn’t be annoyed at all. So instead of having this fight, ignore this woman, get your kid, go home and think. Think a lot. Are you really a bad mother? You are not but sometimes you feel like that cos you have no time for yourself. You can set your mindset in that way so you can solve the issue. Insecurities come out first as a defense mechanism when we are all being criticized. If you consider it as a bad thing, think that it was the only way to pay attention on the current issue. All this time you were avoiding it cos you felt bad. Time to work on criticism instead of shoving it away. Lessons in life are never easy but if they were, you wouldn’t pay that much attention!