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When opinions count more than you think

Today you went to the grocery store and these ladies gave you the look of death. They started whispering and giggling, as you passed by you heard them talking about the guy who keeps coming to your apartment. It’s funny how they say that you should get married and stop being promiscuous. The funnier thing is that they have no clue that it’s your brother. In the end, it’s none of their business, yet they would do anything today to see you frown and have sad face.

If you think a bit about it, their attitude shows that they are jealous of you. They wish they had that chance with a man who cares about them and makes them feel good.  Since they can’t have it, they are mad and when they see someone else happy, it’s when they try to do anything to see that happiness being broken into pieces. By keeping that in mind, you save your sanity for the day.

It happens everywhere, at home, at work, even with the social transportation. Someone will whisper something or they will stare at you cos they don’t like the way you look. If you feel offended and uncomfortable, it means that you don’t accept yourself for who you are and what you do. Don’t be afraid to be unique, don’t be afraid to be different. It’s your right and no one can take it away from you.

As for all these opinions, you have power to mute them in your mind. Don’t let them poison you. You know better what is good for you. Love yourself, be yourself, be happy and smile always!

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Criticism and how bad you want to avoid it

You dyed your hair to your favorite color and you go out with your best friend a couple hours later. When you ask her if she likes your hair, she gives you the look of fail. You are at work and a customer tells you that you should be fired for being so rude. After all you just want to stay home, sit on your bed and have your laptop ready for some online action. As you start networking, you get some very negative feedback. Are you doing something wrong? Why people are so judgmental? Is there anything you can do to make them stop? First of all keep in mind that it’s not your fault. As far as there is free will in this world, people will voice their opinions. You like it or not, you can’t avoid criticism but you can play it smart. If something affects you so bad, it means that it holds some truth. What does this mean? Let’s say that a random woman on a playground says how a bad mother you are cos you keep talking on the phone and paying no attention to your kid. Next thing you know, you are so mad at her that you start a fight.

Pretty much you acted like a wounded animal who  just had its wound touched. This woman just said something that you feel it’s true. If it was completely false, you wouldn’t be annoyed at all. So instead of having this fight, ignore this woman, get your kid, go home and think. Think a lot. Are you really a bad mother? You are not but sometimes you feel like that cos you have no time for yourself. You can set your mindset in that way so you can solve the issue. Insecurities come out first as a defense mechanism when we are all being criticized. If you consider it as a bad thing, think that it was the only way to pay attention on the current issue. All this time you were avoiding it cos you felt bad. Time to work on criticism instead of shoving it away. Lessons in life are never easy but if they were, you wouldn’t pay that much attention!

Free your Mind, free your Soul

You wake up in the morning, getting your breakfast and at the same time checking your blog. It gives you the power to express yourself  in a way you never thought before. The way you can think many times out of the box, the way you can voice your opinion, it makes you feel that you take the world in your hands. Have you ever thought how free your mind is? Have you pushed the limits of yourself yet? It won’t happen from one day to the other but you may feel to some point that there are borders. It’s when you start questioning what happens if you take down the walls of your mind. You are wondering what if there something you don’t want to touch beyond that. So many questions and one big decision. It’s a big challenge and you need to overcome your fears to go past it.

Play some beautiful meditation music, close your eyes and see yourself surrounded by these huge walls. You are in your mind and it’s your reality for now. Inhale deep, hold your breath for 1 min and exhale. Now see a big door on the wall. Open it and whatever you see in front of you, just accept it. Close the door, open your eyes and write down what you saw. Do it daily by keeping a journal on what is happening on the other side of the wall. You will start feeling the difference of your mindset everyday. A small taste of a new world out there. It will be the time when you are ready to break down these walls. It’s when you realize that you stop being normal but get out of the loop of this reality. It feels tempting, right?

 

Don’t judge me, I love you

Your friend lately, she’s been through situations you never thought that this would even happen to her. You considered her smarter but here she is, wanting your opinion. You start making a point out as she give you puppy eyes “Please don’t judge me, I’m your friend.”. It’s when you stop talking, thinking if you said the wrong thing. She keeps asking you what you think, you really don’t want to tell her cos she will get offended. It’s not the first time though is it? She wants to hear what she really wants to hear? Brainstorming questions popping up in your mind, you grab your purse and you find a cheap excuse to leave her house. “I’m done with her”, you murmur and you forcefully open the door of your car. Is this friendship over?

If it’s the first time that happens, you know that your friend is really confused, she needs a new perspective of her situation but she’s expecting something that she has in her mind already. On that situation, pretty much you tell her that when she’s ready to hear your opinion you will be there for her. It’s not that you don’t love her but she needs to understand that she needs to be ready for your conversation first. Detach yourself from the problem and her, without noticing you will get stuck in these thoughts most of the day cos you really want to help her. In fact she needs to be ready for help first. What people usually do when they feel like that, they project their emotions on us and create energetic cords, making us feel responsible for their issues. Chakra cleansing and conscious detachment should be done on a daily basis, making sure that we don’t carry energies that are not ours. Building a friendship is not that easy but you want it to last forever, yes?