Tag Archive | jealousy

When opinions count more than you think

Today you went to the grocery store and these ladies gave you the look of death. They started whispering and giggling, as you passed by you heard them talking about the guy who keeps coming to your apartment. It’s funny how they say that you should get married and stop being promiscuous. The funnier thing is that they have no clue that it’s your brother. In the end, it’s none of their business, yet they would do anything today to see you frown and have sad face.

If you think a bit about it, their attitude shows that they are jealous of you. They wish they had that chance with a man who cares about them and makes them feel good.  Since they can’t have it, they are mad and when they see someone else happy, it’s when they try to do anything to see that happiness being broken into pieces. By keeping that in mind, you save your sanity for the day.

It happens everywhere, at home, at work, even with the social transportation. Someone will whisper something or they will stare at you cos they don’t like the way you look. If you feel offended and uncomfortable, it means that you don’t accept yourself for who you are and what you do. Don’t be afraid to be unique, don’t be afraid to be different. It’s your right and no one can take it away from you.

As for all these opinions, you have power to mute them in your mind. Don’t let them poison you. You know better what is good for you. Love yourself, be yourself, be happy and smile always!

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Do you accomplish the goals for you or for others?

Do you remember when you got awarded at school and you were so glad that your “enemies” were jealous? Or when you got promoted and you called your mom to announce it to her cos she never believed that you would make it there on the first place? The fact that you don’t want to break up cos your friends will consider you a fail since he’s successful and handsome? The biggest question here is, the things you do in life, is it for boosting your ego for you as a person or for showing off to others? This kind of behavior usually shows up when your ego is hurt, when people don’t consider you good enough to accomplish stuff in life. Yet you are there to fight and do your best. You have nothing to prove to no one except yourself. The high standards should be yours not made by other people. Don’t let others to pull you into their game and test you if you can make it. The main reason of your stress has to do with all these.

You want to get out of this situation though but you wonder how. It’s time to work on your solar plexus and your sacral chakra. It’s time to work on your ego and your emotions, on how these two are entangled. Go back to your childhood and see what happened there. Did this has to do with your parents, school or friends? What exactly happened? Keep in mind that there are usually words that trigger this reaction. For example if your friends used to call you “worm”, every time you hear this word, you feel uneasy cos it brings up the specific memory. There are though moments that you consciously blocked out, you never wanted to remember that this happened. So instead you replaced them with new ones. To get through your emotional blockage, it needs you to revise your childhood again and again. Yellow clothes and accessories will help you with the solar plexus energies and your healing process!