A couple years ago you met this gorgeous guy, you fell instantly in love with him as you started dating frequently. You asked advice from your friends and they told you to be careful on what you say, on what you do cos you don’t want him to get the wrong idea of you. Then you read a bunch of articles around net how the first dates should be. Then you bought this magazine since most girls consider it the best for love advice. The days go by and you have created a stable wall and some more barriers around you.
Now you do feel safe to be around him. A date after a date, a year after a year and a common decision to live with him in the same house. It’s the man you dreamed. It’s what you always wanted, to share the same apartment with a person who understand you completely, who treats you like a queen. The first months seem like a fairytale. The next ones start feeling like you try hard to climb on a mountain.
Now the secrets start taking place and create another wall between you and him. You don’t lie to him yet this distance is getting bigger. The fights lead nowhere lately and you don’t know why. That night you yell at him “You don’t know who I am!” and he replies “I thought I knew you. I don’t know who you are anymore.”. He slams the door and leaves you behind bursting into tears. What happened? Why he left you?
You should better ask yourself “Did he ever know me as person? Did I ever give him a chance?” and then remember how you wanted to be the perfect girlfriend for him. Remember now how you created your beautiful and stable wall. Remember how you never told him so many things about you cos you thought he would never like you. How can you be with someone if you cannot be yourself? How can you build a relationship based on a fake image you project?
Trust yourself, love yourself, start listening more carefully to that little voice inside you. Next time you go on a date, don’t ask for advice. Let your intuition lead you. If it was not the right choice, at least it was yours and only yours. Above all be real, the person who will be around you, he will accept you for who you are not for who you make him think that you are. Honesty is a strong base for a beautiful relationship. Just go for it!
While you are checking all this gossip about celebrities around the web and reading all the juicy details, how many times you wished you were on their place? It’s when you were a teenager and you wanted to be like your favorite pop star. You wish you had that expensive house with the big pool, the big closet you always wanted and that rich boyfriend who would give his last penny for you. Have you ever considered though how hard it is to be chased by paparazzi all day, wanting to sneak into your life? Higher rank means higher responsibility, not that it would be completely bad but would you be able to sacrifice your personal freedom for this?
Have you ever tried though to dream a life based on your own standards? Dream high, dream big without sacrificing your dignity, your personality but become the person you always wanted to. People usually tend to dream based on a materialistic level but they forget their spiritual evolution. Instead of desiring so badly this expensive car, desire to become a person who is more outgoing and less shy. It takes a lot of emotional work, it’s not easy but it’s priceless comparing to any item on this planet. Keep in mind though to be balanced, it’s not about choosing being materialistic or spiritual, it’s about enjoying every moment in this life, becoming a whole being having an amazing experience. Have a happy Friday!
It’s amazing how nature can be simple yet complicated but beautiful at the same time. The leaves from the trees, the snow on the top of the mountain, how these amazing images can make you smile. When you wake up in the morning and you open the curtains as you see the sunshine. When you get your hair on a simple ponytail, how your face looks so beautiful. When you wear your favorite jeans and a simple white T-shirt, you feel carefree and happy at the same time. Life may be a strive but those simple moments can make it more worthy. You usually don’t pay attention to them but they are there. Do you want to reevaluate these moments and actually see what really makes you happy?
Change all these simple daily things for a week. Don’t drink your morning tea with homemade cookies, don’t call your mom to tell her I love you, don’t do your afternoon walk next to the sea. Instead of that, this week try to have more complicated activities, go for paintball or redecorate your house. Next week go back to your simple favorite activities. Can you see the difference? Can you feel the difference? Now you know how to appreciate these moments, how the make you genuinely smile. Enjoy and be grateful!
When you buy your favorite magazine or while browsing the web, you find all these wonderful photos about houses, apartments, all designed in a beautiful way. You get up to go to grab a snack from the kitchen but you quickly realize that your house is a mess; cups all over the coffee table, many clothes on the bed, a couple newspapers on the floor. Pretty much your house is far away from what you see around net. You barely have time to deal with the house, it’s your job too that takes you a lot of time, now you feel all the way guilty for failing to have the perfect house. Stop here and take a deep breath. Remember that these houses have the same and even more issues than yours. You just need to focus on your house and only for now.
If you don’t want to come to the point when you have to spend two days to clean the whole house, do the things you have to do on time. You drink your coffee? Clean the cup right away. You come back home and you take off the clothes? Fold them and sort them in the closet. It seems so easy but it’s so effective. Needless to say that a messy house is the nest of negative energies. How so? Since you project your negativity, the energies have a big impact on the house. Next thing you know, you feel tired, you are grumpy, sometimes you will notice that items even break in the house. If you have to take some furniture off the house, then do it. Reorganizing the free space will make it work for you better. You don’t need to spend money on new stuff, just sit down, write on a paper which are your needs and how much time you have everyday for your home. Happy mood and a beautiful house!