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You, your broken heart and a hidden truth

A couple years ago you met this gorgeous guy, you fell instantly in love with him as you started dating frequently. You asked advice from your friends and they told you to be careful on what you say, on what you do cos you don’t want him to get the wrong idea of you. Then you read a bunch of articles around net how the first dates should be. Then you bought this magazine since most girls consider it the best for love advice. The days go by and you have created a stable wall and some more barriers around you.

Now you do feel safe to be around him. A date after a date, a year after a year and a common decision to live with him in the same house. It’s the man you dreamed. It’s what you always wanted, to share the same apartment with a person who understand you completely, who treats you like a queen. The first months seem like a fairytale. The next ones start feeling like you try hard to climb on a mountain.

Now the secrets start taking place and create another wall between you and him. You don’t lie to him yet this distance is getting bigger. The fights lead nowhere lately and you don’t know why. That night you yell at him “You don’t know who I am!” and he replies “I thought I knew you. I don’t know who you are anymore.”. He slams the door and leaves you behind bursting into tears. What happened? Why he left you?

You should better ask yourself “Did he ever know me as person? Did I ever give him a chance?” and then remember how you wanted to be the perfect girlfriend for him. Remember now how you created your beautiful and stable wall. Remember how you never told him so many things about you cos you thought he would never like you. How can you be with someone if you cannot be yourself? How can you build a relationship based on a fake image you project?

Trust yourself, love yourself, start listening more carefully to that little voice inside you. Next time you go on a date, don’t ask for advice. Let your intuition lead you. If it was not the right choice, at least it was yours and only yours. Above all be real, the person who will be around you, he will accept you for who you are not for who you make him think that you are. Honesty is a strong base for a beautiful relationship. Just go for it!

Why you shouldn’t erase your past

You have the choice to erase one incident from your past, as though it never happened.  Someone gave you a big magical eraser and now you are excited that you will pick that hateful moment in your life and get rid of it once and forever. You don’t need to deal with the pain ever again neither with the avoidance nor with the guilt. That “someone” also told you that your life will change after this but you his words are like whispers in your ears. You wished all these years for this moment and now nothing can stop you. Go ahead and do it. 1…2…3…

With a huge smile and such a relief, you give the magic eraser back to that “someone”, you definitely thank them from the bottom of your heart and you are so excited cos your new life is ahead. You call your best friend to tell her how magic still exists, how you changed your past and how she can do it too if she wishes too hard. With a huge surprise you realize that she doesn’t recognize you on the phone. “Are you crazy? It’s me!”, you almost scream jumping off your chair. She hangs up and you are so frustrated. Maybe she just woke up and she didn’t recognize your voice. Now you go to hug your cat, you need some sort of comfort.

The jumps on you as she scratches your arm. “Ouch! What’s wrong with you!”, you scream at the cat as she scratches the door to get out of the apartment. Maybe she needs some air you think, you open the door, she leaves but she doesn’t come back. You start freaking out, something is so wrong and you feel it! You just decide to go out and take your car for a quick ride. Your car is not there! Immediately you call the police, they come outside your house and they start laughing at you. “Miss, you don’t own a car….”, they leave shaking their heads. What the heck happened? Maybe that “someone” remembers to tell you?

You beg in tear so as him to show up again. It doesn’t take much time as he does. Your voice almost broken cos of crying, you ask him what happened! “Well my dear”, he replies to you as he clears his throat, “you never heard what I told you before you erase that annoying past event. You grab him by the jacket and you demand more answers. “You erased that memory about this painful funeral. You met your best friend there for the first time. A couple years later you bought the cat together when you felt lonely. You asked her advice for the new car you wanted to buy. You changed the past with this simple move. It’s action and reaction, it’s the fundamental law of the universe. Live with the consequences now.”

He left you there hanging with your jaw dropping. You wanted to fix the past and you erased your future. “You have the choice to erase one incident from your past, as though it never happened.” Do you feel like doing it again now? It’s up to you now!

 

Very Important Person Gratitude (Or just more than one)

So after thinking a lot, you realized that you have a couple important people in your life who inspire, love you and believe in you. You may also find that one person who changed your life completely and you are so grateful. Positive strong energy is coming out from all these persons, you can’t feel otherwise than blessed in your life. I’m sure you have thought that all these people bring the best side out of you. Without them, you wouldn’t reach that far in life. Keep in mind that this is only one side of the coin. How about the other one?

Yes, I’m talking about the people who made you cry, who broke your heart, who made you think back then that life only brings pain. It’s just the past right? Yet again think how much influence these people had on you. The experience is the outcome of the pain and suffering. Therefore you are wiser. Therefore you can make better decisions now. You may think that you were a fool back then but look at you today. “I won’t make the same mistake again”, you say to people when they ask you for advice. When back then you thought that you are worthless, that you will only run after people for advice. Now look at you today.

You are the one who is giving advice to people with similar issues. It’s when you realize that maybe the most important person in your life was your worst enemy. How many times you closed your eyes and wished the worst for this person? Now how many times you are willing to thank them? Yes thank them as for forgiving them, it’s another story. It needs a lot of understanding and knowledge of the situation so as to forgive someone. If you just do it out of pity, then don’t even bother. Focus on the lesson you learned and move on!

 

Big Saturday Smiles with Best Moment Award!

My friend Ute  nominated me with a new blog award, the Best Moment Award. Ute’s blog is one of my favorite ones, she knows how to touch someone’s heart with simple but meaningful words. I’m so thankful of this award but mostly for Ute’s friendship which means so much to me. When I started my blog, my thoughts were on how to help people yet I never had in mind that I would actually feel so close to fellow bloggers. This is how it goes though, you can’t predict life but you can enjoy the little moments. The unexpected ones which are the best, the ones that can change a lot in our lives. “Your life is a blessing. You are the ‘now’ “, my husband Zed wrote yesterday on the Psychic Nest and I can’t agree more with what he said.

Awarding the people who live in the moment,
The noble who write and capture the best in life,
The bold who reminded us what really mattered –
Savoring the experience of quality time.

So here are my nominees:

http://terrytreks.wordpress.com/

http://awaketolife.wordpress.com/

http://lijiun.wordpress.com/

http://simpletombornhigh.com/

http://awakeningtothedance.com/

 

Blooming Heart on Spring

Spring is here as you expected it so much during winter. You feel your head a bit lighter, your heart ready to fly away to the blooming fields, you can’t wait to smell the dazzling smell of the flowers . The sadness of the winter is ready to go, at least how you feel as you want to do major changes along with the spring mood. You feel you are ready to forgive more, to be a little more sensitive than usual like a playful fairy. With a big smile on your face, you call one of your friends, you haven’t talked to her for some time. You ask her if she wants to hang around with you. Next thing you know, she’s asking you for favors. This is how you will prove to her that you are still friends. You frown a bit but you guess it’s fine to do these little favors for her. Days later, you can’t ignore your feelings, how annoyed you are. How can people do that? Maybe you should think twice about the people you are about to approach again. Remember what happened between you two. Why you stopped talking, why you had a fight, why you started keeping your distances.

Some people say that it’s hard for someone to change and if yes, it’s only for some time. The truth is that some people are willing to change and some just want to stay stuck to their physical and emotional routine. Remember that not everyone is on the same page with you. Maybe you are ready for these changes but not everyone around you is. You have felt many time this; to shake someone till they wake up. Yet again don’t forget that some of the people around you, they just want to keep “sleeping”. It’s their right, it’s free will. You are hurt but you have to make your choices. Changes many times hurt cos we leave people behind. It always was like that and it will always be. Instead of trying to pull them with you, show them how things change for you with your own behavior. Let your inner beautiful tree flourish and let the scent have an effect on people around you. Some will run away cos it will be too strong to handle. Some others will embrace it and they will want more! Happy Spring my dear friend!

Travel in your mind or in your heart?

How many times have you wished that you could leave everything behind, grab the first plane and go to another country? It’s the lonely nights after a stressful day, after a confusing relationship or it’s just a challenge for you to see how you can change your life after all. You wish you had the strength to say some things but again you feel something making your throat closing. So you just avoid it for the time being. As you lay on the bed, you keep daydreaming, thinking of all these places you could visit or just your favorite destination. The culture, the new people, maybe a new flirt over there and away from all these people whom you don’t like. Leaving all the problems behind as you keep visualizing more vividly this ticket in your hand.

How about trying to use your heart instead of your mind while you see yourself leaving your city? What do you feel? How others will be effected by that? Do you care? Are you scared? Try to set up the scene again. You at the airport holding your ticket tight in your hand, some moments before you get in the plane. Your heart is racing but this time is different. You are not alone. The emotions lead you to a different mindset. Eventually you will have to face everyone now. Remember that you play safe though, it’s just in your mind. If you are 5% hurt for example, now think what it will happen if you do this for real. Maybe you are not sure what it’s gonna happen but at least you have an idea what might happen. There are people out there who really care about you, before you make such a decision. Keep that in mind, yes?