Tag Archive | emotional healing

Boredom or something else?

Although you are busy lately, you must admit that when it comes to do things for yourself, you are bored. You don’t feel like going out, you prefer to be a coach potato sitting in front of your TV and watch random shows. The phone rings but you just ignore it. Too bored to talk to your friend even. People keep asking you what’s wrong but you just reply “bored” and then you turn your back. Sit back and rewind. When did this start happening? Have you thought that under boredom it could be an emotional issue, fear or even crashed ego? By avoiding it, you don’t solve the problem. On the other hand, you just make it worse. How many times you’ve been in a situation in where you didn’t want to fight cos you thought it was pointless again and again? Do you remember when you exploded after a long time? The exact same thing happens when you ignore your issues.

If you your next question is “what I do?” or just shrug saying “I can do nothing about that”, you get to the apathy stage aka boredom. So actually you do know what is going, you just don’t want to deal with the issue. If you don’t find the strength to fight for yourself, no one will fight for you. Even if you complain to your friends, you ask for their advice or even go to a professional, it will never work if you are not ready to do the big step. What is going to happen, is the people who care about you keep repeating themselves and when you go back home, you just ignore what they said. By playing the victim, it leads nowhere, in fact you will start pushing people way. Believe in yourself, love yourself and get out of this boredom. Life is beautiful cos you make it beautiful, never forget that!

Do you accomplish the goals for you or for others?

Do you remember when you got awarded at school and you were so glad that your “enemies” were jealous? Or when you got promoted and you called your mom to announce it to her cos she never believed that you would make it there on the first place? The fact that you don’t want to break up cos your friends will consider you a fail since he’s successful and handsome? The biggest question here is, the things you do in life, is it for boosting your ego for you as a person or for showing off to others? This kind of behavior usually shows up when your ego is hurt, when people don’t consider you good enough to accomplish stuff in life. Yet you are there to fight and do your best. You have nothing to prove to no one except yourself. The high standards should be yours not made by other people. Don’t let others to pull you into their game and test you if you can make it. The main reason of your stress has to do with all these.

You want to get out of this situation though but you wonder how. It’s time to work on your solar plexus and your sacral chakra. It’s time to work on your ego and your emotions, on how these two are entangled. Go back to your childhood and see what happened there. Did this has to do with your parents, school or friends? What exactly happened? Keep in mind that there are usually words that trigger this reaction. For example if your friends used to call you “worm”, every time you hear this word, you feel uneasy cos it brings up the specific memory. There are though moments that you consciously blocked out, you never wanted to remember that this happened. So instead you replaced them with new ones. To get through your emotional blockage, it needs you to revise your childhood again and again. Yellow clothes and accessories will help you with the solar plexus energies and your healing process!

Turn back time or turn your back on time?

You never expected that you would wish to turn back time, not only to fix things but to go back in the life you had as a kid or teenager. All these daily life problems make you wanting to go back, to forget everything and be carefree. Do you remember though what you kept telling your parents when you were younger? “I want to grow faster to leave this house, I want my freedom!” If you feel that not much has changed yet, that you think you started a new life while your past keeps making you wanting to go back, it’s when you know that it’s time to fix your past once and forever. Many people tell you to turn your back to what happened in the past. They will tell you that you need a fresh start without pain, without worries and no drama. If you just skip your past, then it will keep popping up in moments when you need to take serious decisions.

Let me give you a simple example. Let’s say that you want to get married to a guy you are together for two years and lately you feel that he’s cheating on you. Then you remember that your ex never cheated on you but you did have that sexual chemistry. You think that you overrated the current relationship, maybe it’s time to call your ex, date or something. Just having some fun even before you will fully commit to a guy, a guy you are not really sure if he’s the right one. Now you see what happened? You haven’t solved the issues with your ex boyfriend and yet you want to move forward to a marriage. Face your past, accept the pain, heal and move on. Fear will try to keep you back but you are stronger than that, yes?