Tag Archive | decisions

Very Important Person Gratitude (Or just more than one)

So after thinking a lot, you realized that you have a couple important people in your life who inspire, love you and believe in you. You may also find that one person who changed your life completely and you are so grateful. Positive strong energy is coming out from all these persons, you can’t feel otherwise than blessed in your life. I’m sure you have thought that all these people bring the best side out of you. Without them, you wouldn’t reach that far in life. Keep in mind that this is only one side of the coin. How about the other one?

Yes, I’m talking about the people who made you cry, who broke your heart, who made you think back then that life only brings pain. It’s just the past right? Yet again think how much influence these people had on you. The experience is the outcome of the pain and suffering. Therefore you are wiser. Therefore you can make better decisions now. You may think that you were a fool back then but look at you today. “I won’t make the same mistake again”, you say to people when they ask you for advice. When back then you thought that you are worthless, that you will only run after people for advice. Now look at you today.

You are the one who is giving advice to people with similar issues. It’s when you realize that maybe the most important person in your life was your worst enemy. How many times you closed your eyes and wished the worst for this person? Now how many times you are willing to thank them? Yes thank them as for forgiving them, it’s another story. It needs a lot of understanding and knowledge of the situation so as to forgive someone. If you just do it out of pity, then don’t even bother. Focus on the lesson you learned and move on!

 

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Travel in your mind or in your heart?

How many times have you wished that you could leave everything behind, grab the first plane and go to another country? It’s the lonely nights after a stressful day, after a confusing relationship or it’s just a challenge for you to see how you can change your life after all. You wish you had the strength to say some things but again you feel something making your throat closing. So you just avoid it for the time being. As you lay on the bed, you keep daydreaming, thinking of all these places you could visit or just your favorite destination. The culture, the new people, maybe a new flirt over there and away from all these people whom you don’t like. Leaving all the problems behind as you keep visualizing more vividly this ticket in your hand.

How about trying to use your heart instead of your mind while you see yourself leaving your city? What do you feel? How others will be effected by that? Do you care? Are you scared? Try to set up the scene again. You at the airport holding your ticket tight in your hand, some moments before you get in the plane. Your heart is racing but this time is different. You are not alone. The emotions lead you to a different mindset. Eventually you will have to face everyone now. Remember that you play safe though, it’s just in your mind. If you are 5% hurt for example, now think what it will happen if you do this for real. Maybe you are not sure what it’s gonna happen but at least you have an idea what might happen. There are people out there who really care about you, before you make such a decision. Keep that in mind, yes?

Turn back time or turn your back on time?

You never expected that you would wish to turn back time, not only to fix things but to go back in the life you had as a kid or teenager. All these daily life problems make you wanting to go back, to forget everything and be carefree. Do you remember though what you kept telling your parents when you were younger? “I want to grow faster to leave this house, I want my freedom!” If you feel that not much has changed yet, that you think you started a new life while your past keeps making you wanting to go back, it’s when you know that it’s time to fix your past once and forever. Many people tell you to turn your back to what happened in the past. They will tell you that you need a fresh start without pain, without worries and no drama. If you just skip your past, then it will keep popping up in moments when you need to take serious decisions.

Let me give you a simple example. Let’s say that you want to get married to a guy you are together for two years and lately you feel that he’s cheating on you. Then you remember that your ex never cheated on you but you did have that sexual chemistry. You think that you overrated the current relationship, maybe it’s time to call your ex, date or something. Just having some fun even before you will fully commit to a guy, a guy you are not really sure if he’s the right one. Now you see what happened? You haven’t solved the issues with your ex boyfriend and yet you want to move forward to a marriage. Face your past, accept the pain, heal and move on. Fear will try to keep you back but you are stronger than that, yes?

Free your Mind, free your Soul

You wake up in the morning, getting your breakfast and at the same time checking your blog. It gives you the power to express yourself  in a way you never thought before. The way you can think many times out of the box, the way you can voice your opinion, it makes you feel that you take the world in your hands. Have you ever thought how free your mind is? Have you pushed the limits of yourself yet? It won’t happen from one day to the other but you may feel to some point that there are borders. It’s when you start questioning what happens if you take down the walls of your mind. You are wondering what if there something you don’t want to touch beyond that. So many questions and one big decision. It’s a big challenge and you need to overcome your fears to go past it.

Play some beautiful meditation music, close your eyes and see yourself surrounded by these huge walls. You are in your mind and it’s your reality for now. Inhale deep, hold your breath for 1 min and exhale. Now see a big door on the wall. Open it and whatever you see in front of you, just accept it. Close the door, open your eyes and write down what you saw. Do it daily by keeping a journal on what is happening on the other side of the wall. You will start feeling the difference of your mindset everyday. A small taste of a new world out there. It will be the time when you are ready to break down these walls. It’s when you realize that you stop being normal but get out of the loop of this reality. It feels tempting, right?

 

I’m not crazy but I do crazy things

When it was the last time you did something crazy? Not for someone else but for you. A day when you rushed to get a plane for Paris, a cold morning when you rolled on the snow with your dog or a moment when you opened your window and screamed that you loved the whole world. You usually try to find a partner in crime but you won’t do it by yourself. Are you afraid that you won’t be accepted by others? Are you afraid of people mocking at you? Though when you are with your boyfriend, family or best friend, you will do it cos everyone does. If your memories of having fun always include others, then what happens if someone takes these memories away? You feel so alone, you feel that you can’t have fun unless you are around other people.

Make a monthly challenge diary with fun activities, you have no idea how good you will feel after accomplishing the task. You love sharing those moments though, right? Call your friends, tell them all the amazing stuff you did. Do you remember how you felt accepted when you did similar stuff with them? Now you will feel respected cos they will go “wow” with your experiences. The most important here, do you know what you really accomplished? You worked on your solar plexus, you worked on your insecurities and doubts, if you actually can do stuff by yourself. Feel proud of yourself and you will see how your indecisiveness will just flee!