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Strip off the fake Confidence

Girls love their make-up , boys love their cars and guess what happens if you take them away. If you are still wondering, ask your best friend to meet you in the cafeteria without her make-up on and your boyfriend to use public transportation to come over there too. Pretty much you expect two upcoming situations. On the first one, they find a terrible excuse not to show up. On the second one, they do show up but their confidence is under zero. It’s not bad to own a car or having beautiful clothes. The bad thing is to depend on them so as to boost your self esteem. Take away the expensive houses from the celebrities and their status is harmed. This goes along with their confidence. When we live in a society that nurtures us with these ethics and when we are stuck in a system in where you have to be successful so as to be “important”, “special”, “unique”, it’s when you know that you have to fight back. Anything materialistic shouldn’t be above anything spiritual or personal growth. Though if you don’t do it, you feel you will get kicked out of the system.

This pretty much means that your friends will push you away, your parents will consider you a failure and you will feel the need to leave your town or even country. It has happened to everyone but how do you act? Lower your head and stare at the ground? Shrug and move along? Sigh deeply and have the worst thoughts about yourself? This means that you surrender, you let the system win. The system that you hate so much, that even lead you to take antidepressants cos you are not good enough. Draw a big line and don’t let anyone cross it. It’s your personal boundaries, it’s the space that you need to be yourself. You need to apologize to no one for who you are. Meditate, join a yoga class or martial arts, write daily affirmations, all these will lead to your confidence boost. This is what you want. This is what you need; Inner peace and trust yourself!

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I “heart” you green – Happy Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day and a big doze of green and no red at all this year! If you are wondering why you should avoid red, a couple realizations may persuade you. Red is the color of the root chakra that it’s connected to fear, grounding, changes, detachment, fragility and so on. So instead of celebrating love this day, you are afraid that your boyfriend may break up with you, that he won’t get the right gift for you and if you are alone, you feel so fragile and you feel do detached from everyone out there who has a relationship. Apart from that, red makes the heart racing faster by making you feel more stressed. Today just try to incorporate green into whatever you do. Green is the color of the heart chakra, bringing energies of love, understanding and friendship.

When you go out with your date, focus on the earth colors such as brown, green, grey or ivory. You will notice that these colors will create a different atmosphere and you will radiate it to your surroundings. Your boyfriend will feel the difference, you will notice that he will be more open to talk about things he never said before. Apart from that, buy him an Eco-friendly gift that will be different that ones you usually buy every year. Have a wonderful time and if you are single this day, just stay away from anything that will create unnecessary drama or tears. Just be yourself and enjoy!

Be a Dreamer with your own Dreams

While you are checking all this gossip about celebrities around the web and reading all the juicy details, how many times you wished you were on their place? It’s when you were a teenager and you wanted to be like your favorite pop star. You wish you had that expensive house with the big pool, the big closet you always wanted and that rich boyfriend who would give his last penny for you. Have you ever considered though how hard it is to be chased by paparazzi all day, wanting to sneak into your life? Higher rank means higher responsibility, not that it would be completely bad but would you be able to sacrifice your personal freedom for this?

Have you ever tried though to dream a life based on your own standards? Dream high, dream big without sacrificing your dignity, your personality but become the person you always wanted to. People usually tend to dream based on a materialistic level but they forget their spiritual evolution. Instead of desiring so badly this expensive car, desire to become a person who is more outgoing and less shy. It takes a lot of emotional work, it’s not easy but it’s priceless comparing to any item on this planet. Keep in mind though to be balanced, it’s not about choosing being materialistic or spiritual, it’s about enjoying every moment in this life, becoming a whole being having an amazing experience. Have a happy Friday!

Where is your secret place?

Do you remember when you were a kid and you had your own secret place? When you grabbed your bike and you went there every time you wanted to be alone? While growing up, you stopped going there cos you considered it childish. Sometimes you just went on your summer vacation or to  impress your boyfriend showing where you hanging around as a kid. Your work is in the big city, you barely have time to go back to your hometown. Next time you visit it, just go to that place you used to go when you were a kid. The emotions will be strong but you will face a part of yourself that got buried in there. All the fears, personal fights, heartbreaks, everything is there. Why do you feel like not going back there though? Is it nostalgia or something else?

It’s simply the realization of some things that haven’t changed since yet or some wounds you still carry. It would explain why many times you can’t sleep at nights or why you have a specific behavior towards your parents. Childhood memories are infiltrated when you are growing up, usually we all keep the pleasing ones. You won’t remember being slapped but you will remember receiving that big yummy cookie. By going back to your secret place, you will open the Pandora box. Do you want it? Not really. Will it help you to fix your current life issues? Most definitely. It takes a lot of courage to go back to your childhood but it’s definitely rewarding. Becoming a better person is a hard but well – deserving path!

Life is a School with many Classes

Do you remember when you were going to school, you had to wake up early, you had to face the same teachers, same annoying classes but you had to find a real reason to stay happy? It was not for the friends, how many times you had to get rid of them cos they back-stabbed you? It was not for your crush either, he barely paid attention to you. It was that class you always loved to attend. It made you feel different, alive, you wished you could go every day there. After being done with school, years later, you had to find a job and do something with your life. Some times you question yourself if you are on the right path, if you are doing the right thing. You don’t really have that much time for these questions, your busy life will give you little time for fun, going out with a couple of friends for drinks or just have that awesome date. School all over again but in a different sense now, you are the one who decides about the teachers, the classes, the friends and the boyfriend.

Have you taken advantage of this privilege yet? Don’t let your  life being lead mostly by random factors, use all the tools you have in your hands to make it better. Start a new activity with the teacher you really believe in, have a real friend around you, date the guy who really cares about you. Pick the path you want to in your life, listen to your inner voice and do what you feel like doing. So many lessons out there to learn, so many classes and so many people to interact but now you do have the choice. You know it won’t be easy but the journey is more worthy than the destination. Don’t doubt a moment that you can achieve great things, don’t let your insecurities to take over. Life is a big school and you are a very talented student!

I’m not crazy but I do crazy things

When it was the last time you did something crazy? Not for someone else but for you. A day when you rushed to get a plane for Paris, a cold morning when you rolled on the snow with your dog or a moment when you opened your window and screamed that you loved the whole world. You usually try to find a partner in crime but you won’t do it by yourself. Are you afraid that you won’t be accepted by others? Are you afraid of people mocking at you? Though when you are with your boyfriend, family or best friend, you will do it cos everyone does. If your memories of having fun always include others, then what happens if someone takes these memories away? You feel so alone, you feel that you can’t have fun unless you are around other people.

Make a monthly challenge diary with fun activities, you have no idea how good you will feel after accomplishing the task. You love sharing those moments though, right? Call your friends, tell them all the amazing stuff you did. Do you remember how you felt accepted when you did similar stuff with them? Now you will feel respected cos they will go “wow” with your experiences. The most important here, do you know what you really accomplished? You worked on your solar plexus, you worked on your insecurities and doubts, if you actually can do stuff by yourself. Feel proud of yourself and you will see how your indecisiveness will just flee!

The Journey and the Awakening

It comes that day in your life when everything changes, as if someone pulled the carpet under your feet. Changes are always good but you usually see that in the future as the current events make you shake. For now the only thing you know is that you woke up this morning with a weird sensation, that nothing is the same as yesterday. The vegetables taste better, the fresh coffee will almost make you hallucinate and your boyfriend who is sleeping next to you… well you start having second thoughts. Rushing thoughts make you almost lose your mind, you keep wondering what happened to you. You grab your phone to call your best friend but right away you put it back on its place, for some reason she won’t understand. You don’t understand either yet. As you grab your hot coffee, you open your laptop right away. You start searching for your symptoms online, you stumble upon articles about awakening. Your curiosity will lead you to read more but take a step back here.

Spiritual awakening may have common symptoms but don’t forget that you are a unique person with your own perception for this life. It’s a period of inner work, you have to take decisions about your life and everything after this will change. You will feel lonely, you will cry, you will even feel devastated by this world and then you will feel the fighter inside you, you will do anything to change everyone around you. Don’t forget though that changes start from within, you are the example for your friends and family. If you try to force them to see the world through your eyes, you must be that world. The beautiful new You is ready for the most exciting journey, don’t hold anything back!