You, your broken heart and a hidden truth

A couple years ago you met this gorgeous guy, you fell instantly in love with him as you started dating frequently. You asked advice from your friends and they told you to be careful on what you say, on what you do cos you don’t want him to get the wrong idea of you. Then you read a bunch of articles around net how the first dates should be. Then you bought this magazine since most girls consider it the best for love advice. The days go by and you have created a stable wall and some more barriers around you.

Now you do feel safe to be around him. A date after a date, a year after a year and a common decision to live with him in the same house. It’s the man you dreamed. It’s what you always wanted, to share the same apartment with a person who understand you completely, who treats you like a queen. The first months seem like a fairytale. The next ones start feeling like you try hard to climb on a mountain.

Now the secrets start taking place and create another wall between you and him. You don’t lie to him yet this distance is getting bigger. The fights lead nowhere lately and you don’t know why. That night you yell at him “You don’t know who I am!” and he replies “I thought I knew you. I don’t know who you are anymore.”. He slams the door and leaves you behind bursting into tears. What happened? Why he left you?

You should better ask yourself “Did he ever know me as person? Did I ever give him a chance?” and then remember how you wanted to be the perfect girlfriend for him. Remember now how you created your beautiful and stable wall. Remember how you never told him so many things about you cos you thought he would never like you. How can you be with someone if you cannot be yourself? How can you build a relationship based on a fake image you project?

Trust yourself, love yourself, start listening more carefully to that little voice inside you. Next time you go on a date, don’t ask for advice. Let your intuition lead you. If it was not the right choice, at least it was yours and only yours. Above all be real, the person who will be around you, he will accept you for who you are not for who you make him think that you are. Honesty is a strong base for a beautiful relationship. Just go for it!

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12 thoughts on “You, your broken heart and a hidden truth

    • Exactly! We have all done this in the past, the point is how we are ready to give up on this bad “habit”. Have a beautiful Friday! 🙂

  1. This is a good story to think about relationships and how they develop. I am dating and the very first date I had with my new man was having a coffee and going swimming, so I didn’t make to much effort with make up etc, and best clothes, not when you go swimmming. The pool was closed and we ended up going for a picnic instead. It was the best date I ever had, totally natural and not to impress really, just being me. He was the same. I am still going out with him and we get on so well. Also we do talk about being honest and we still get to know each other. It is so important to just be yourself and not put an act on. Thank you Ruby.

    • I love the way you approach your guy with lovely simple dates! Thank you for sharing this Ute! I hope you have a wonderful Saturday! 🙂

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